Six months ago I moved from the Dirty South (Houston) to Southern California.
Since doing so, I’ve had to learn how to get around, how to keep from losing my sanity in traffic, how to find a place to park that won’t result in a parking ticket (which I think is impossible FYI), and the thing that most pertains to this website–how to date in the land of LA. In fact, I’ll have you know that I’ve been on quite a few dates.
(Side note: almost every single one comes with a hilarious story.
Don’t worry, these will be written about soon.) However, what I didn’t realize is that dating, or the lack thereof, would be so difficult to come by in California.
I’m not sure if it’s just me that feels this way, but meeting a guy in California has proved to be nearly impossible.
It’s not that I don’t see gorgeous men out here, because I do.
I stalked one in the grocery store just the other day, and I’m still looking for him on Missed Connections.
I’m not trying to toot my own horn, it’s just a fact. Yes, I know that’s bad, but don’t act like you haven’t been there.
Here in California, in all of the times I have been out, I have been hit on once. I was out with my girls at a bar, and a guy came over and asked me to dance. I think I was in shock that I was actually being talked to. We had some conversation during our dancing, but nothing that stuck out to me as a potential match. That was my one experience getting hit on while out. It’s definitely humbling on a night that you’re feeling yourself, and you seem to be the only one that is.
Before we parted ways so that I could dance with my friends again, he asked me for my number. What I noticed about men in the South is that they are much more likely to approach a woman.
I won’t say that it’s always the best conversation, but they do try.
Out here I have been stared at for a long time without any form of communication attempted. Regardless, the differences are eye-opening and they are causing me to dig a little deeper into the conversation.
Search for dating drought:
I’m not sure what that is about, but—spoiler alert—it doesn’t work. It’s time to take it further and find out the real issue.